We’ve forgotten how often society had an answer for that question.

Perhaps our shift away from a dictated answer not only gives us freedom, it also creates ennui and fear.

The culture of a generation or two ago told you where to study, what to study, how to cut your hair, what to wear, where to work, how to present within your class or identity, what to listen to, what to eat, what to drive, where to live and more.

Things have changed, slowly and then all at once.

You’re way less likely to get picked.

The gatekeepers have left the gates unlocked.

And yet, the indoctrination of ‘supposed to’ continues.

The disconnect is real. Like all change, it’s not easy. One of the early subtitles of my new book was, “figuring out what to do next.”

Owning our choices is a privilege that we can learn to dance with.